Insomnia

Basically this is when you have difficulty falling asleep or when you wake up in the middle of the night or when you have non-restful sleeps and early morning awakening. Some of us have experienced this and it’s not pleasing at all cause we all want to sleep well and get that beauty sleep without using any pills. We have all been told that insomnia can cause the symptoms of anxiety, depression, stress etc worsen. So I’ll be sharing some few tips that i use to help me overcome insomnia without medication.

I have came up with an exercise routine whereby I exercise in the morning for atleast 30 minutes in a day. You can also do it in the evening depending on what suits you best. I do yoga mostly.

You can also do relaxation exercises before bed, mindful breathing and progressive muscle relaxation

Every morning i wake up, I have a routine of opening my blinds and windows, and when I’m done i head to my balcony to get some natural light exposure. I also get some in the afternoon depending on the weather. During dark winter days you can try using a light box first thing in the morning to help your brain wake up and regulate your body’s rhythms. Also make your sleeping hours constant every night.

I have established a regular bedtime routine where i take a warm bath before bed and I make sure that my sleep environment is pleasant and relaxing, that is i ensure that my rooms temperature is okay and small things that like my pillow are comfortable to sleep on.

Try it also.

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How you can offer emotional support to your friends or family with mental health problem

Listen

Try and listen to what they have to say and be patient with them.

Time

Spend time with them and offer to take them out or go to somewhere they like and enjoy being there.

Help them

Help them to find the right support and be supportive by offering to go with them to the doctor.

Remind

Always remind them that you are there for them no matter what.

Encourage

Always be their number one encourager and motivator.

Organise

Help them organise their schedule, their time and balance work and home.

Learn

Take time to educate yourself and learn more about the problem they are experiencing.

Pressure

Don’t be so persistent and pressure them to talk about things that they don’t want to talk about. Rather offer them a safe space for them to be comfortable and be open.

Activities

Be there to help them with daily tasks or activities to avoid overthinking.

Connect

Stay in regular contact with them, by calling or texting them or better off go visit them.

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Let’s support each other

Be a good friend or a good family member and support your loved ones. Here are some of the things that you shouldn’t say to a friend or a family member experiencing mental health problems. I believe sharing it with you will help you get to be me of a supporter than a toxic friend or family member

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Learning to accept what you cannot change

So i read a short article about teaching your heart to accept what cannot be changed and that it’s a simple one sentence intention but such a difficult practice. Since I realised that I had anxiety disorder I have been battling with accepting the things I cannot change and it has not been easy and i know it has been a journey for alot of you. I had to learn first if i was to change the situation or my feelings about the situation for me to feel better. People told me to just accept it not knowing that it’s not as easy as it looks. Especially if it’s about the fear of the known or unknown.

I learnt that I need to accept my feelings of that situation. Because accepting how i feel creates a foundation for acceptance, forgiveness, and eventually, moving on. I sometimes quiet my thoughts because it’s important to recognize that thoughts sometimes prevent you from learning how to accept the things you cannot change. They keep you in resistance.

Asking for help is also good, it shifts our perspective to see trials in a more loving way. You can get ideas on how to go about with changes you want to accept. Not trying to accept the changes can hold you back. And if you take that step you will be able to influence others in taking that step.

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Get a better understanding when your close ones tell you that they are mentally ill.

You’ll have to understand that having a mental illness isn’t easy. And it’s even harder when people assume that you can just get over it. So I asked a friend of mine who doesn’t know that I am mentally ill, something about mental ill people and she was grossed out about it saying that they are mad/insane people. It really pissed me off but I couldn’t blame her. And this is why people who are struggling with mental health will find it hard sharing it with friends and family because some are uneducated about it or they will either not understand or not trust you with important things. You should know that they are still the same people you knew before finding out they have a mental disorder.

Friends and family should understand that it’s never easy. And if it was that easy we wouldn’t be struggling in the first place. They should understand that those who suffer from mental illness are stronger than they think. Fighting everyday to go to work, care for our families, be there for our friends, and act normal while battling with unimaginable pain.

When that friend or family member has explained to you what they are going through, you should really see effort. It can be really stressful to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand it yourself. They deserve just as much support and compassion as people with physical health conditions. It’s common and could be anyone. The trouble is nobody wants to talk about it, and that makes everything worse. Offer a safe platform for them to feel safe and share.

Let’s help each other get through this.

How to deal with unsupportive friends and family when you have mental health problems.

Everyone experiencing mental health problems should know that it’s not their fault

Everyone needs someone to talk to, someone to listen to them whenever they have a problem. It is very important to have people in your life who either understand your condition or are willing to try. And, if friends and family are unsupportive, blaming you for the symptoms of your illness or making thoughtless remarks, it can make you feel really discouraged and can be tough for you.

You can always find support within yourself by understanding that not everyone understands what you are going through and that, them not understanding has nothing to do with you, it can be lack of knowledge of what your are going through. And sometimes they need education so that they can better understand what you are going through.

Your family and friends might be Struggling too

Know That Other People May Be Struggling, just that they haven’t shared their story with you. And by that it’s hard for them to give anything to you, especially support. But you can always find support from discussion groups or from a therapist.

Believe on the facts about mental health and not myths

Don’t listen to what people say about mental health problems, stick to the facts. Also be direct when you ask for help. Some people may be willing to help you out even though they might not know what you are really going through.

Cut off toxic people in your life

Don’t forget to be good to yourself by being your greatest supporter and motivator. Avoid toxic relationships that bring about negativity towards you. Cut them off of your life or find a way to try and mitigate the damage and If you can’t, find ways to either limit your contact with them or bolster yourself against their insensitive treatment.

Limit your contact with toxic people

Try and harness your emotions for good, use your anger with the other person to your benefit. Instead of turning your anger at the other person inward and beating yourself up for your failings, channel this anger into doing something positive.

If you have an opportunity to ask for help, do it.

All in all, sometimes the best thing you can do is seek support from people who do understand what you are going through. If the people in your life are not giving you the love and support you need, try expanding your social support system whether it means seeking help from a mental health professional or joining an online or in-person support group. Ask for help.

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Self-care

Self care is simply taking care of yourself and all you need to do is set time for it. Self care relies on increased self-awareness, which can benefit people who are living with a mental illness. Practicing self-awareness can help you to recognize patterns in your emotions, including events or situations that can trigger worsened symptoms.

With anxiety I always want to be close to someone who understands me and is supportive. I always want to be distracted from my thoughts and worries. And being alone in the house most of the time is challenging. So I always try to find ways to take care of myself. I do alot of exercises which helps in clearing my mind and relieving stress and the same time it takes care of my body. I have tried yoga a couple of times and meditation too. I also watch a lot of movies.

With self-care you can choose either self-love, alternative healing or medical treatment. Self-care will help you to take your power back and by this you have to reclaim it first. It will help you in recharging yourself. And when you are fully charged you will now be able to not adapt to the energy in the room but influence the energy in the room.

You can’t pour from an empty cup. As much as you get busy taking care of others,dont forget that you are also important. Remember to always take care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Let’s help each other get through this.